Oh, DUDEs. It's time.
I feel bad but I have to say it: you guys SUCK at touching girls' vulvas, especially when it's not yet sex but still sexy time.
Here are five pointers to help you along in many a situation (bear in mind that lots of girls like different things, but my friends and I all agree on the following recommendations):
1) Touch me lightly! Lighter than you think possible. So lightly you think I can hardly feel it. This might not make me come, but it will give me such a terrific sensation that I will be aroused enough to come about twenty times quicker afterwards.
2) Use your whole hand, not one finger, to touch a vulva. One finger feels clinical and annoying. A hot cupped palm pressed against it, however, is delicious. Three stroking fingers (downwards, never upwards) is also very very lovely.
3) If you do use fingers, make sure they're wet. Lick them, or dip them in the vag if it's wet enough. Silky fingers transmit sensation so much better. Seriously! Try this: touch your wrist softly and slowly. Next, lick your fingers so they're drenched and touch your wrist softly and slowly. Which feels better?
4) At first, be afraid. Be very afraid. Go slow. VERY slow! Stop! Go slower. Don't match speed of your touch to intensity of YOUR arousal - they're not related.
5) It's great to focus on the clittish area, but don't try and isolate the clit or rub it until the lady is actually about to come. And even then, see point 3.
OK? Okay.
4 comments:
You know, I haven't got off from a man's hand since June. I use manual stimulation from my partner about as often as I use water pressure to get off. Come to think of it, I really want to be fisted again by a woman.
where has Manda gone?
I totally agree. Most men I've been with are way too rough - especially the younger men. However something I have noticed is they often comment that they have been with women who like it ROUGH. Who the hell are all these women who like it rough and can they STOPPIT because it's not helping us gals who like it slow, soft and sensuous!
I agree, Sooz. Who are these women? There's a time and a place for rough, to be sure. But for me it's such a rarely occurring time! Such a rarely visited place!
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