There's a guy I fuck, who I've talked about before but whose pseudonym I can't be bothered looking up. He's married and has two small kids and a wife who all but flatly refuses to have sex with him now that she's got her children (yes, yet another of those).
Anyway, he and I don't often get together in anything but a social sense (we share a hobby) but when we do, it's delicious. He has a stunning penis, thick and hard and straining, and a beautiful body. Hairy chest and belly, all roast-almond coloured and strong, with rough hands and a handsome, boyish face. I don't know what the heck is wrong with his wife, because he is one good-looking, lovely, lusty guy. The sex we have is pent-up, urgent; it seems to come at a time when both of us are craving and desperate. It's ALWAYS good.
Except for this time.
I don't know that I've ever had a guy come that fast before (and, let me say this loudly: I have fucked a LOT of males). He lasted all of 20 seconds! From going in (I was grinding feverishly away on top for the few seconds that it took) to pulling out and dragging the sodden condom off, it was less than a minute. "Seriously?" I exclaimed. "Oh, come on. That was WAY too fast." When I am all worked up into a sex frenzy I'm quite possibly not the most sensitive person.
"Sorry," he said, "It's just... oh, MAN, it's been so long." To his credit, he was a bit embarrassed.
He reckons the last time he had sex was with ME, which would make it sometime last year, several months ago. And judging by that performance, I believe him. And I feel so sorry for him. Sex is one of the few adult pleasures we can enjoy for free in our own homes (or in my home).
Nobody who's married should have to go several months without sex just because their partner doesn't FEEL like it.
Monday, 17 March 2008
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I do and I don't have a problem with this. Life is damn complicated.
Personal story time:
My wife was in a major depression for 6 months and her sex drive vanished as a result of that and birth control pills.
I deeply love and respect my wife, and we had long had the understanding that if she didn't feel like having sex then we wouldn't. It wasn't fair to expect that from her, and we believed it would put pressure on an already pressured area. I personally can't conceive of sex as a duty.
6 awful months went by...and I went into a state of learned helplessness. I didn't even try to romance her because it was a big nothing.
So we decided to get her off the pill and on some other pills to work things out. Things are picking up.
Meanwhile my Gringo friend in Japan had a situation. His wife gave birth to their first child then culturally devoted all her time and attention to the boy and froze my friend out.
He went outside the marriage and fell in love with his mistress and he's now ready to bail on his 3rd marriage. Go figure.
No we can't all be as lucky as TBK.
Just my thoughts on the matter.
No one should have to settle. If you're not having your needs met, if your partner is not able or willing to meet your needs, and it looks like no end is in sight, then you should be able to get your needs met in another way. Some people are less sexual than others, but for others sex is extremely important.
Example: If I was on bedrest in my 9th month of pregnancy and couldn't have sex and my partner was horny, I would give him a blow job, or hold him and talk dirty to him as he masturbated, and then make him give me a foot rub afterwards.
With the triad relationship I have going now, if one of us has a headache, someone else can step in. :)
I don't think it is horrible for a married person to have an affair - echoing Cap'n Marrrk, Life is damn complicated.
It is my hope that people can be open and honest with the folks they love, and not have to hide their true self.
You even see articles about married couples (translation: her) practicing celibacy, or the old stereotype that the wife bitches that all her husband thinks about is sex. She's lying, she wants sex...just not with him. Poor guys.
Not that I have experience in that department or anything, but I never got why the guy has to give up if he blows his load too quick. If that happened to me, I'd go on "damage control" (oral or something else) to make up for it while things had a "chance to recover."
I agree to the fullest extent with TBK. I would jerk him and talk dirty to him..... then bake his favorite brownies!
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